From psychology blogs to self help sites, depression and anxiety occupy a popular niche in mental health topics. That’s both encouraging and sad; sad because with the rising number of shares on my Feedly, I know that people are passing the links on to people who need the information to deal with their own mental health issues. On the other hand, it’s encouraging to know that there’s an open
Add all six of the previous tool together, and you get resilience. Resilience gets a bad rap as being the willingness to endure hardship, or the ability to keep going on after being a victim, but in reality resilience is neither of those things. Resilience gives you three things that you need to fight any fear. The ability to recover quickly. Want to shake it off? If you’re resilient,
Poise is really for advanced adventurers, because it develops as a result of previously successfully confronting and defeating a fear. Poise is one of those really cool battle scars you get, and it’s what allows you to summon up more courage as you go further down the road. For me, the definition of poise is “courage that is not controlled or dependent on emotion.” Poise tells me that I’ve
You will have to work to harness your energy and focus, because without focus, you can go off on an ineffective tangent and squander all of your other tools. In a business, you need to conserve all of your reserves and get the biggest return on your efforts. Focus allow you to do just that. Focus pulls you into the present, and if you’re dealing with the regrets of
You might think that courage would come in at number one, but in order to have courage, you need to have a store of energy, a positive perspective and loads of determination to see things through. I mentioned in the introduction that anxiety often substitutes itself for assertiveness, and if you are tired of running from the room in search of relief from your anxiety and you’re ready to stand
The third tool that you need to successfully fight fear is energy. Along with determination and perspective, energy is a tool that you’ll need throughout your confrontation with fear. And yes, you’ll have to confront your fear; no use trying to tiptoe past it, hoping it doesn’t see you. Before we go any further, let’s look at what “energy” is not. Being “energetic” is not always being in a heightened
The second tool that you’ll need in your arsenal to tackle fear is perspective. We looked earlier at how determination provides a powerful engine for keeping you going past fear. Today, we’re giving the same treatment to your perspective. While determination is the fuel that keeps you going, perspective determines how you see every aspect of your situation. “Do I really have what it takes to go trough this?
If you lack determination, don’t worry that it’s a moral issue. It means that currently you’re lacking in: Intrinsic Motivation: This is an internal motivation, everything that lives amongst your deepest needs and desires. Without intrinsic motivation, there is no unmet goal or desire. You have nothing to move you forward towards something. You may be in a situation where you’ve been so hurt in the past that you
The popularity of my e-book, The Fear of Success has taken off this past year. I’ve gotten an overwhelming amount of new readers (thank you!) That’s also led to a rise in new newsletter subscribers. I’m thrilled to know that the book has been helping you all, and just to celebrate, the price is going down for three days only on Kindle, May 28-30th.
Youngey Mingyur Rinpoche changed my view of Buddhism and anxiety when I learned that he struggled with panic attacks from an early age. For some people, depression and anxiety go hand in hand, while others deal exclusively with anxiety issues. Any time any spiritual leader opens up about dealing with mental illness, it has a profound impact on me. For the full story of how he used his Buddhist faith