Add all six of the previous tool together, and you get resilience. Resilience gets a bad rap as being the willingness to endure hardship, or the ability to keep going on after being a victim, but in reality resilience is neither of those things. Resilience gives you three things that you need to fight any fear. The ability to recover quickly. Want to shake it off? If you’re resilient,
Poise is really for advanced adventurers, because it develops as a result of previously successfully confronting and defeating a fear. Poise is one of those really cool battle scars you get, and it’s what allows you to summon up more courage as you go further down the road. For me, the definition of poise is “courage that is not controlled or dependent on emotion.” Poise tells me that I’ve
You will have to work to harness your energy and focus, because without focus, you can go off on an ineffective tangent and squander all of your other tools. In a business, you need to conserve all of your reserves and get the biggest return on your efforts. Focus allow you to do just that. Focus pulls you into the present, and if you’re dealing with the regrets of
You might think that courage would come in at number one, but in order to have courage, you need to have a store of energy, a positive perspective and loads of determination to see things through. I mentioned in the introduction that anxiety often substitutes itself for assertiveness, and if you are tired of running from the room in search of relief from your anxiety and you’re ready to stand
The third tool that you need to successfully fight fear is energy. Along with determination and perspective, energy is a tool that you’ll need throughout your confrontation with fear. And yes, you’ll have to confront your fear; no use trying to tiptoe past it, hoping it doesn’t see you. Before we go any further, let’s look at what “energy” is not. Being “energetic” is not always being in a heightened
The second tool that you’ll need in your arsenal to tackle fear is perspective. We looked earlier at how determination provides a powerful engine for keeping you going past fear. Today, we’re giving the same treatment to your perspective. While determination is the fuel that keeps you going, perspective determines how you see every aspect of your situation. “Do I really have what it takes to go trough this?
If you lack determination, don’t worry that it’s a moral issue. It means that currently you’re lacking in: Intrinsic Motivation: This is an internal motivation, everything that lives amongst your deepest needs and desires. Without intrinsic motivation, there is no unmet goal or desire. You have nothing to move you forward towards something. You may be in a situation where you’ve been so hurt in the past that you
Working for myself is fraught with surprises, and in this video I talk about three things that I learned about myself once I became my own boss.
Lots of things are happening with the creation of this latest book. I want to share my progress with you.
Some days, it seems that you can only get through the day by sheer willpower. In this month’s edtion of Psychology Today I found an article that suggests that willpower alone may not be enough. It operates at a level that can’t be sustained. If you go after a new program with full ferocity, eventually you’ll burn out of energy. You can best see that with New Year’s Resolutions. No